LUST!

Hoonie says this Tiffany beauty is about S$2 - 3 K! Damn! I hope there are cheaper alternatives out there! So preeteeeeee.... I don't even mind crystals instead of diamonds as long they are shiny. Haha!

I'm just sitting around waiting for 6pm to come so I can go to the airport. Bored! Back to amazon.com.

Happy song!

I think my colleagues are going to be relieved when I leave for SG tonight. I absolutely love Scissor Sisters 'I Don't Feel Like Dancing' and listen to it about, I don't know, 10 times a day. It's just one of those happy songs that make me sit at my desk and bounce from side to side on my chair and bop my head up & down.

"I don't feel like dancing, dancing!'
Haha! Ironic song title I tell ya.

I also dig James Morrison. "Wonderful World' and 'You Give Me Something'!
Considering I don't get any real music news (hello, no English radio stations here in cantoshithole), I'm discovering 'new' music really late. Except for the titles from my company of course which after about 5 listens, become a real bore. JT? YAWWWNNNNN. Heh!

Something...

I hope I don't get freakin arrested for plagurism. But something thought provoking from an email someone sent me. But obviously not applicable for 'marraige' coz I actually do not know that many married people out there but it's quite applicable for relationships....


During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said,"How do I know if I married the right person?"

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?"

In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.
Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse.
You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling is love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.
But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.
And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience.
It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love.
You have to "make" it day in and day out.
That's why we have the expression "the labor of love."
Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM.
You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... Not just a feeling.

Something weird

Something weird happened today. I was just going through my Inbox and something that has never happened before, happened. I got an email from my father. It just went 'just checking' and in his email, he just went 'is this the email you check regularly? reply asap'.

I tell ya, I have NEVER gotten emails from my dad, nor even speak to him (well not very often, I do, but it's usually finance related matters) on the phone. So I replied, and after not getting another reply, decided to call to find out what is up. Nothing apparently, he just wanted to check if my email was working and we were talking about email addresses, and bloody lousy canto exchange rate etc.

Man, I had a conversation with my dad! I think my mother should go buy 4D. I think she'll strike it big! Heh!

Last working week of the year!

Woohoo! This is the last working week of the year for me and best of all, it is not even gonna be a full week! I head home to sunny Singapore, leaving this cold (it's 14 degrees today though so not so bad) SUPER CROWDED (my gawd, a usual 5 min walk from my house to yoga takes me twice as long coz I have to walk around tons of mainlanders & Hkies with their huge bags of Xmas shopping) country on Thursday evening, after a day's work! I'm on the 8pm CX flight (my preferred flight heh) landing in SG at about 11.40pm.

My colleagues are throwing my used-to-be-former boss-but-now-current-boss (it's complicated I know) a farewell bash since she'll be moving to join us here in cantoshithole on 23 Dec. Dear Alan is so adamant that I join them at the bash at Kbox Cineleisure upon landing he is trying to psycho someone, ANYONE to come pick me up at the airport as I certainly do not wish to be riding the Cineleisure lift with beng-sters and lian-sters with my hugeass suitcase to join the probably-super-drunk-and-delirious ex-colleagues! Though if you ask me, I think they will all be too drunk to remember me by the time I land... hmmmm...

Alright, shall try to do some paperwork. I'm super sleepy!

Headache

I have this persistent headache that comes on once every few days and it's nothing that panadols can fix. I can't quite move my head. It feels heavy and achy! It has been going on for about 2- 3 weeks now, on & off. I have to see a doc soon I know but so far all the HK docs I have seen are lousy. Argh!

The little voice in my head

How often do you listen to that little voice in your head? You know, the 'instinct'. More often than not, that goes against what your heart and your main level of conscious wants you to do. My little voice is getting louder and louder with each passing morning.

On a happier note, I have finished Christmas shopping and wrapped them up for all my gal friends who I am meeting for our regular Christmas Day lunch. Gosh I am so bad at it. Those regular shaped ones, I can wrap them properly but I never have the sense to use double sided tape so it looks 'cleaner'. I only have 'magic' scotch tape and gosh they are so obvious on solid coloured wrapping paper! Argh.

There is only one person's present left to be wrapped and I cannot bear to look at the gifts I have gotten. I have put them at the back of the cupboard until I have an answer. Knowing they are there, waiting to be wrapped and given to the person they were bought for, is painful.

I'm going to yoga to clear my head.

Weather is freezing! It's 15 degrees now.

I have tempted fate too many times despite knowing better. Fate is mocking me now. Serves me right. I know better than to be presumptous.

One more week to Singapore and Xmas.

I just want to lie in bed and not move till then.

It's almost Christmas...

After freezing Beijing, I came back to HK for one night to have dinner with my sister and her boyfriend Martyn who were in HK to celebrate their 2nd year anniversary. We went to this steamboat restaurant and the food rocks! Mmmmm, perfect for a cold winter night (except it wasn't cold that night) But the spicy soup base must have been TOO spicy coz I got three zits the next day. Ah well!

I was off to Bangkok from Sat - Mon to help my colleagues out with interviews with the curly haired one and the hottie known as Chris Botti! He's not THAT gorgeous but there is something so blond and so understated about him that is so endearing heh. I went to the show with Malaysian & Singapore media on Sat night and had to work on Sun from 10am - 4pm and after that it was shopping and massage time! I love BKK (except the infuriating cabbies sometimes, the vendors who try to rip you off and the scorching heat)!

It is almost Christmas and 19 more days to the end of the year (and me moving closer to the big 3-0 argh)

Getting slightly hungry now - Lunchie munchie soon!

Minus 2 degrees!

In Beijing now and landed to the above temperature! It is so cold, when I opened my mouth to talk, the hot air 'smoke' will come out from my mouth! I've almost forgotten how 'fun' the cold can be, if you are properly prepared. I had a long sleeve cotton tee, a wool jacket and a Zara padded jacket that G bought for me in preparation of HK winter.

It's also super drying and I can feel my lips feeling really dry and crackly. Lip balm & moisturiser!

We are having a tricky time with work here in Beijing - man, I'd rather not make this trip here if I have to face such crazy silly dramas. And the moment we got into the hotel, we found out more dramas that need to be fixed for Bangkok (happening this Sat-Sun)

Gonna have a long and no doubt, tedious day tomorrow. Wish us luck! And may the curly haired one be trouble free if not somebody should smack him! Hmrph!

BJ & BKK

I'm off to Beijing to help my colleague out with Kenny G at some major corporate event where he is performing to all the BIG bosses of our parent company. Thanks for the stress! (Maybe this is why I have been having this persistent migraine for the past two days!) After that, I am due in Bangkok to help out as he is performing at a jazz festival there and doing some key interviews with our Asian media.

Our Asia head of the company, who is also going to Beijing for the event just told me that it's - 4 degress celcius in Beijing! OMG, the last time I endured such weather was when I went skiing in Australia in 2001! I had on a beanie hat, gloves, 2 layers of pants and 4 layers of long sleeve clothes. Does this mean I have to bulk up again? Though most of the time I would be indoors, I imagine there would be times where I will need to walk from vehicle to building and that would be insane! I don't even think I have thick enough socks! I am going to go buy me some opaque tights and hopefully some gloves for this trip. I have a beanie somewhere but I don't know where I chucked it during summer!

Brrrr!